Why do Pretty Girls CRY?

As I was drying my hair, my brain started to work. (scary!!) I was
thinking about a few comments that I had heard from guys here and there
regarding, "Why Pretty Girls Cry". Of course I had to question them in
order to get them to reveal their thoughts on the subject.

As you can see this is going to be a very controversial article. Hey, I
never, ever have anything but, controversial thoughts. what can I say? I
was born this way. BITE ME!

Anyway, as I was drying my hair, my brain started to work. (scary!!) I
was thinking about a few comments that I had heard from guys here and
there regarding, "Why Pretty Girls Cry". Of course I had to question
them in order to get them to reveal their thoughts on the subject. I
asked them a simple question- "Do you think that women that are pretty
dislike other pretty women?" Hmmm, I received a lot of answers
immediately, without any thought, seemingly. The answer that was the
most popular was.."NO!!" I know so many women that are beautiful and the
last thing that they would think about theirself, is exactly that. They
cannot see what we see in them at all. They think every other women in
the world has more to offer.

My next question was, do you think that women constantly compare
themselves to other woman? This question took no time at all for them to
answer. "Yes and no, They think that we (men) are comparing them to
other women. And that's what gets them all weird". Additionally, "They
think that we are lusting after them in our minds or wondering what they
would look like naked. They compare themselves with other women, yes,
but in more of a way to improve themselves for us. My girlfriend
compares herself with women that do not even come close to her on a any
scale and still finds reason to knock herself down".

Hmmm, I seem to be saying that a few times, but it's because women are
so generalized. If one women is one way with one guy, he thinks all
women are like that. When women generalize men, they call us male
bashers, or feminists. What do we call guys that generalize us from
their past experiences?

So whats up with the fact that pretty girls really do not look at
themselves as pretty girls? Is it something from their past?. (seems
like the age old excuse for everything)

I, myself remember a guy asking me that exact question. "Why do all the
pretty girls think they are ugly?". I shrugged. I really had no answer.
I never put myself on that level, of being pretty that is.

In all the research that I have been doing on this subject, I will tell
you this, `beauty is in the eyes of the beholder`, nothing more, nothing
less. If we look in the mirror and see no beauty, that is in our minds
only. Not in our partners minds or a strangers mind. We are constantly
supported by our spouses and we constantly mistrust their comments. Why?
When are we going to start to see ourselves as a beautiful being? A
UNIQUE being. A one and only being.

Ladies when you cross paths with another that you feel is way above
you, for whatever reason, shoes, hair, dress, body, or just her smile,
think this; she is also looking at you and seeing something in you that
she lacks and would love to have.

Also, it's part of us, built into us, and born with it in our brain to
compare.

Some will look for weakness or flaws in others just to make themselves
feel good. That is a negative comparison. It is not a bad thing to want
to be a better person. We just have to be very careful to not take it to
an extreme that blinds others to our thoughts and intentions.

Men tend to automatically call us jealous when we reveal our thoughts,
if another women is involved. Another mystery in my mind; Jeesh, we are
not always that worried, OK. So get off your ego trip guys. Sometimes we
are genuinely curious as to why we see and feel the vibes we get from
you. Also as you read earlier, just maybe, we care and we want to
improve ourselves. Maybe men should try and do that sometime. Then they
will actually see where we are coming from.

Another thing I have noticed is that men are very good at making us
believe that we are doing what they say. Why is that? Is it to win an
argument and feel totally in control of our thoughts or is it that they
themselves feel vulnerable at times and less than perfect to us. Men
have told me that they do not look at other men and wish they were like
them. Well duh! Would that not make them female? Why does everyone try
so hard to give excuses to genders?. Why can't we just accept and
appreciate each other for our differences? Why do we have to be so damn
equal on everything?

Females are soft, sensual, sensitive, emotional, passionate, intelligent
creatures. That's us, and we are tired of apologizing for how we were
born. We work overtime trying to understand our male counterparts. We
are what makes them tick. They are what make us tick. We want nothing
more than to be their everything. What is so wrong with that? Men are
strong, protective, sexual, and feeling beings.

Men and women together make a very nice song.

These are just my thoughts as you all know, so take them with a grain
of salt. Has society totally confused what real people are all about, to
the point that some do not even know they are pretty? That is a sad
thought. Some may think that I have nothing good to say. Well I actually
have a lot of good to say. I wish that life was a perfect world. It is
not even close. My thoughts tend to deal with the real world and it is
not all that great for some. One can not go up until they have gone all
the way down.

We are all pretty in some ways. People think way to much about the
outer physical appearance and I wish that I could meet the first person
that started that negative seed. When did things get so out of proportion?

There are too many worries and too many unhappy women out there. If I
can at least help one woman see how pretty she is, then my course is
set. Ladies we are all a gift, one that is truly cherished by our loved
ones. Never let that go neglected. Remember, you choose your thoughts.
You are the pretty girl that your man wants, desires, and will spend the
rest of his life with. It's who we are that makes us the perfect woman.
Not just what we look like, because we are not always going to look the
same. Everyone grows older and everyone changes their outward
appearance. What does stay the same, is who we are inside. Our REAL
person is what it's all about.